It had been three days since we got engaged.
My fiancee’s phone buzzed.
“Notice of Charge on Venmo from: Zack Moab Random Guy.”
She hadn’t changed my contact name in her phone during the course of our two-month courtship.
She opened the notification: “$16 for ‘MANgagement™ ring.”
A puzzled look crept over her face as she completed the charge nonetheless.
Yeah. That’s how it went down. No confession of love, rain storm kissing or even diamonds (low maintenance kind of guy, you know…why’d you laugh?).
A venmo completion was all it took. (The first right-swipe that I’ve been happy with for a loooong time.)
I picked out a ring on Amazon for $16.99 and charged her for it. I decided to cover the $0.99 to not look cheap, but I wanted it to be “from her.”
I didn’t need the fanfare, the secrecy or even the cost that surrounded my proposal–but I did want a ring.
Since making that decision, I’ve been met by a lot of super confused people with a lot of surprisingly strong opinions against me wearing a mangagment ring. So let’s just clear the air.
WHY AM I WEARING A MANGAGEMENT™ RING?
Reason 1: I want to. And that sums it up. Annie didn’t ask me to, but she loves it.
Reason 2: It isn’t that weird. Some celebs are doing it like Johnny Depp, Charlie Sheen, David Otunga (Jennifer Hudson’s bae) and Michael Buble and the Atlantic also did a piece on it recently where they note that 5% of engaged men are rocking a mangagement ring. So yeah, not many, but some.
Reason 3: Annie has one. I’ve been most surprised from my “equal rights” friends who are against the mangagement ring. They say that it is weird. I just have to pinch the bridge of my nose with a head shake. There is no pleasing those people. Look, no matter where you stand on mangagment/engagement rings, if she gets/has to wear a ring, I get/have to too!
Reason 4: I want to get used to a ring. It is super weird to go from never wearing rings to wearing a ring. A very thin mangagement ring is a perfect preparation.
Reason 5: I am committed. Not like, ‘I’ll give this a try,’ sort of thing, but like I’m in it to win it. I’m as good as married (a few MINOR details pending…like actually getting married. But like I said, details). I understand that women typically wear an engagement ring because in our culture, men pursue and this signals to them that they are off the market. But things are changing and women are getting more aggressive and while I’m not saying that I have women beating down my door, it is just a safety to make sure that we are all on the same page.
So there it is. That’s why I’m wearing a mangagement ring.
It isn’t flashy, but it is meaningful. I don’t know if I’m going to get a thicker band when I get married, but until then, manGAMEgent on!
For more fancy MANgagement rings, check out the people who TM’ed the term: https://www.brilliance.com/mangagement