7 Reasons We’re Single

yes I am single

For every one time asks me why I’m single, I probably ask myself the same question another 70×7 times.


I figured a lot of you also ask yourselves, “Why am I single…?”


The ellipsis preceding that question mark could go on for miles.


The countless hours on dates, the endless time talking about the dates, the scheming on how to get more dates, the frustration when I couldn’t get the date, the anger when I didn’t want to go on the date for no good reason…it is consuming at times. And for people that are overly-analytical, it can be overwhelming.


So I’ve put this list together, but what do you think? Did I miss something?


why i am single7 Reasons why you are single:


1. You have a deep dark secret and God is protecting an unassuming potential spouse

Sorry man…just stop being bad and good things happen. Oh, and if you aren’t single, don’t just assume this is the reason. I have plenty of good friends in their late 20’s and 30’s who are single, good looking, fun, spiritual and do NOT have a porn problem and are not closet gays.

2. You are having too much fun being single and are too scared to break up with your single life

She is a tough one to leave behind sometimes.

3. You always are looking for the next best thing


4. You are having trouble opening up emotionally

Listen, just take it one day at a time. Don’t blame yourself and you will be fine. Promise. Watch the video below to help you through.

5. You are ugly on the inside

Get a personality mirror. Good indicator? How many people ask you for rides to the airport NOT out of desperation? If you get asked a lot, then you are wonderful, if not, then…well, you might have a problem.

6. You are too busy

Make scheduled times to meet people. And oh…calm down.

7. You just haven’t met the right person



So for you category 7-ers, the do-gooders, the done-with-funers, the upside on the inside(rs), the regular schedulers…you who are looking but have not yet found, or found but lost—you are not alone.

single cat
We are told so much advice to try to help: don’t settle, but settle down. Don’t think too much, but consider options deeply. Don’t lead people on, but give them a chance. Don’t jump in too quickly, but jump on that! Look on the inside, but find someone you think is hot.


Well I say–let us be. We’ve had the pep talk, now, we need to do the prep walk. (preparing to walk down the isle) It isn’t that we have some deep dark secret, but rather that we simply haven’t found someone we love at the same time that they love us.


6 thoughts on “7 Reasons We’re Single

  1. There’s another option, which is both distinct from your 7 and inclusive of all of them and then some:

    I am single because, since I ended my last relationship, I haven’t asked anyone to be my girlfriend who has said yes.

    Calling Wayne Gretzky … “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

    I haven’t asked anyone to be in a relationship with me that changes my status to “not single.”

    For the people who have asked another for that agreement and are single, the reason they are single is the people they asked said no.

    And those naysayers are truly wherein lies the answer to your question, “Why am I single?”

    So let’s get them on here and reveal the truth!!! Who has Zack asked to be his girlfriend, and why did you say no?

    1. Zack has not asked me to be his girlfriend. He did compliment my nose (sort of), and dance up really close to me one time… but no asking was done. Oh wait maybe he was asking me to be his girlfriend when he was hanging out the window of his car on the freeway right next to me??

      However, were you or Zack to ask me to be their girlfriend I would most likely say YES…. most likely. I do have a one state rule so Zack might get a louder YES than you would.

      1. whaaaaat?! And why, when i am in the same state as a girl there is rarely such openness? Carly Jo…when are you moving to Utah? Your bf in waiting is….waiting.

  2. I feel like people asking why are you still single is equivalent of people asking married people when they’re going to have kids. It really isn’t any of their business… and just because you haven’t had kids / aren’t married doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.

  3. Heyo Zack,

    So I actually have a few rebuttals to real reasons why people are single-
    The problem behind “the grass is greener” syndrome is pride. When you
    are truly grateful for someone’s good qualities, and can see your own
    flaws and are grateful that they accept you as well, you deem that
    person of great worth and don’t let go.

    2. Anxiety. I mean, it’s
    not like you’re making a permanent, endless, everlasting decision,
    right? Oh wait… Apparently dating anxiety is a big enough problem that
    LDS Living decided to do an article on it.

    Helping people understand the situation:

    Helping people know what they can do about it:


    I also write these reasons out of experience, from seeing them
    in myself and in others. The best dating advice I have ever received?
    Develop charity. It lets you forgive, it lets you love and admire; it
    maintains your humility and pushes you out the door to go and serve.


  4. Hahhaha Zack, I identify with 7. This is first day I found out about your blogg or site, and I have enjoyed so much reading your posts. You are a witty, cool guy. God bless you. Hugs from Chile.

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