Should you date a lot of people at the same time?
I’d say a B-I-G no.
I used to date a lot of people at the same time.
Then I decided I would try not to.
Then I got engaged.
Right when I got back from a mission I was going on at least 5 dates a week, sometimes up to 8 or 9. At one point it got so bad, I created a spreadsheet to make sure that I was keeping in contact with each of them.
Then I would get upset for not having a girlfriend.
But actually, I was just a guy running from commitment by staying too busy to fall into the trap (love).
I was like a kid in a candy store that shoved 8 or 9 different kinds of candy in his mouth at the same time and then tried to decide which one is his favorite.
Ready for this quote bomb?
Gordon B. Hinckley, “I hope you will not put off marriage too long. I do not speak so much to the young women as to the young men whose prerogative and responsibility it is to take the lead in this matter. Don’t go on endlessly in a frivolous dating game. Look for a choice companion, one you can love, honor, and respect, and make a decision” (“Thou Shalt Not Covet,” Ensign, Mar. 1990, 6.)
I’m not going to tell you the right number of people to date at the same time, but I will say that you need to give yourself time enough with each person to be emotionally open and connect.
Just try it out.
Go after that person until you know where it is going.
You may be surprised what you find.
I can’t tell you how it will work for you or when it will happen, but I can promise you one thing–it will be sweet.