Things are going great with that special someone.
The first few dates have been fun, regular between texting, and during your last get together—I mean shoot, you even planned your next date.
Who knows, maybe you’ve even kissed.
Like a dandelion slowly floating away piece by piece…the inevitable demise becomes clear.
They start to become busier.
Texting back becomes more rare.
Voice message returns are non-existent. (plus, who leaves voice mails…honestly! What is this, like the 1700’s?)
The “next date” is canceled the day before.
Yes, my friend, you’ve just been faded.
You have nothing left but a seedless weed of a relationship. But hey…it could be worse. I mean, it could have worked out. But that is a post for another day.
And while you might think you are overanalyzing…
They might have their reasons.
You might be a bad kisser.
They might have found out about your dating blog.
You might be roommates with their ex.
They might have found someone else.
And while you might be heartbroken…
They might be over it.
But why do people pull the fade?
- They don’t want to blow it out of proportion. It wasn’t a big deal. You weren’t official. Why make it something it never was?
- It is too late. By the time they realized they weren’t interested, it had been too long and it would have been awkward to go back.
- They are scared. They don’t want to face the potential frustration.
- You are scary. Yeah. You just may be.
- You are imagining it. They really are just super busy right now or maybe they are in the hospital and you just haven’t found out so you might as well hold onto hope and keep calling and texting them because then they will finally realize that you are amazing and fall in love with you and you should definitely over analyze it and talk about it with everyone that doesn’t ask but you imagine that they because the more you talk about it the better the situation gets. Yeah. That’s probably it. Let me know how that works out for you. #harshsarcasticreality
So reasons aside, what do you do it if you are getting the fade?
Let the Three Point Rule be your guide and move on. After all, if things are going to work out, it will be because THEY realize how much they miss you and not because you are trying to run around catching pieces of what once could have been.